I spent the long holiday weekend at a family wedding. While I do have a good relationship with some of my cousins, my relationship is “difficult” at best with my immediate family. I had pretty low expectations going into it and was preparing myself for the worst, but also trying to keep in mind that the rest of my family is still stuck in the never-ending loop that is modern Christianity, resulting in guilt, shame, and judgment to no end. Yet, I still found myself completely drained and reevaluating my boundaries and where they exist with my family. ☾
You are always within your power to redraw the boundaries in your life wherever they are healthy for you. If that means redrawing them or pulling them back, then do it. I had already kept a pretty ‘tight leash’ on where my mother and some of my sisters were allowed into my life, but once again, those boundaries are going to be drawn again after spending time with them again in the 3D. I tried a few times over the course of the weekend to engage and be the ‘bigger person,’ even electing to spend 1:1 time with my mother over breakfast coffee (this is a bigger deal than it sounds if you know our relationship). When everyone continued to keep acting out of their wounds and wounds alone, it just means the boundaries get redrawn. ☾
I was touched by a genuine conversation I had with a cousin of mine, who now has three young children. Both of us raised in Christian households, she admits that she never attends church anymore and wants to raise her children far away from that environment – but still has a faith system. The way that she has drawn her boundaries with her family and chosen to raise her children was SUCH a welcome surprise and I told her I felt blessed she opened up to me. ☾
The point of this long, personal rant is to understand that you are a universe, self-contained. You have the power to draw those boundaries wherever you see fit. You have the power to sit back and observe, unaffected – I’m still working on the ‘unaffected’ part, personally. And when it comes to family karma, you have the power to keep those wounds from your children and heal yourself.