When it comes to sacred sexuality and the act of exchanging your energy so intimately with someone else, there are a few misconceptions that it’s so important to get out of the way. The first and foremost to know is that that sacred sexuality is VERY different from that of religious virginity and religious celibacy (that is enforced by modern Christian doctrine). The second is that virginity is absolutely a social construction. The third is the modern attitude which most people approach the concept of a “body count.” ☾
I was raised in a very Christian household, and the idea of celibacy until marriage was law. My parents talked about it incessantly. They got us all “purity rings” when we turned fourteen and didn’t want us dating at the very least, until we were sixteen. My male counterparts at youth group never got nearly the amount of lectures that the girls did. This is oppressive, first and foremost. It’s a stigma that comes from the historical biblical age, when a woman’s net worth was higher during the SALE of marriage if she was a virgin. Modern Christian doctrine aims to weaponize sex and turn it into an agent of fear. Understanding sacred celibacy does the exact opposite, it just demands of you that you are more cognizant of who you share that energy with (but doesn’t judge, condemn, or have expectations). ☾
The second is that virginity is a social construction. It’s a social construct that has been designed to mainly oppress women and make them feel bad about their sexuality and sexual experiences. It’s also heteronormative and speaks to a sexual act involving vaginal penetration. (Which is why girls at Christian colleges have anal intercourse to “avoid” this rule. Yes, I know people who did this out of fear of losing their virginity before marriage). ☾
Finally… screw a “body count.” You should not be shamed or celebrated for the number of people that you have exchanged sexual energy with. You should just be infinitely more cognizant of the power of sexual energy and only share it with those who are worthy of your highest form. Modern sexuality has been weaponized more than people realize, but divine sexuality breaks all of those barriers.